Don't Marry Your Girlfriend.........

This is my first post and I would like to center it on variety and what life's all about. 

                  Every person has his or her own theory about relationships and how they should go. There are millions of books, videos and audio recordings about how to turn that sour relationship sweet and how to get that girl and that boy and shit like that. What I am about to tell you may sound like the opposite of what everyone has been telling you but I believe that after going through my write-up, you may somewhat agree with me up to a point.

                   Now, let us face facts here, a lot of people go through tonnes of relationships before finding that ‘perfect’ person. Prior to getting into these relationships, we dress up nice and talk nice and behave as if we don’t even fart or shit all just to create a perfect impression on the person we are trying to woo. There are some things we would never tell the prospect about our lives, fearing that she would leave you or find you inadequate and some stuff like that. So it is like we are at our best when we are in the presence of these persons.

                     Now two, there may be that girl (or boy) whom you’ve never considered going out with but happens to be a very good friend. She may even qualify to be your best friend. So you feel free around her. You are the idiot you are when you are around her. You tell her practically everything about yourself and even your deepest thoughts and fears. She even sometimes acts as your shrink, giving you advice about your relationship with your girlfriend. She knows everything about you and you know everything about her. You have absolutely nothing to hide from her. You like her for who she is and she also likes you for the asshole you are. 

                  Now three, a relationship which is meant to last is not a game of pretense, where you are at your best behavior and keep 'yourself' at bay so that you make an impression that you cannot keep forever. Note that going into a relationship with pretenses makes the other party accept you as someone else and not you. There's this proverb that goes like this, 'character is like pregnancy; eventually it would show itself'. So after you are found out and you find her out then the fights begin. If she is not ready to accept the real 'you', then (of course) she would leave you.

               So which is best, marrying your girlfriend or your best friend? I watched a movie once and one character was asked how he's been able to keep his marriage intact and happy (this question was asked by another character whose relationship was in turmoil). His simple answer was 'I married my best friend'. I was shocked at the reality of the answer. It just made a complex issue of relationships very simple to me. Marry the one whom you can be yourself around. Go out with the person who doesn't expect you to be someone else. It is as simple as that.

                                                                           ~Thank You~